"I should not have bought that twelve pack of condoms" or the rantings of a female
So i have made a new friend. A male friend. He actually is an old friend that I have reconciled with as of late because he got a divorce and has moved to Houston. I like hanging out with this new, old friend. He makes me laugh, and is nice and we have fun together. I don't get the romantic vibe from him which is fine with me because we all need friends of the opposite sex to hang out with.
We have been hanging out pretty steadily for about a month now going out at least once a week and doing dinner or something like that. Everything was going well. This weekend, however, nothing. I emailed him earlier in the week and didn't hear anything, I called him on friday and he did not call me back. I texted him today (something funny) and no response.
This is very hard for me. There is no reason for him not to be talking to me, I don't think. There is nothing that I said or did to offend him....I don't think....but still nothing, and no explanation. What is this all about?
The divorce has been hard for him and I am thinking that he just needed some time alone this weekend and that is why he didn't call me. But at the same time, I was hoping that I was becoming that friend that he could lean on a bit, you know? Maybe he doesn't want to lean on me too much because he thinks that I will get annoyed with him...Maybe I am just thinking too much. But I can't help it. It is what I do, I analyze things.
On the one hand I am worried about him. I want to make sure that he is okay and that he is not sitting in a bathtub drinking beers until the ratio between urine and water are equal. But on the other hand, my more selfish hand, I want him to call me and just let me know that I have nothing to do with why he hasn't called me back, or even if I have something to do with it, I can figure out what to do...I NEED THAT CONTROL.
I have a friend who has a hard time keeping in contact. I will call her and she will not call me back, I will email her, text her, and she will continue to be MIA. I have learned not to take it personally, because I know it has nothing to do with me, but I have been friends with her since high school, and I just learned this recently. And to be honest, sometimes it is not easy.
Also, after one of the long times we went without speaking I asked her what she wants me to do when she gets like this (it is part of her depression). She said "Keep calling". So I do.
I believe that my new friend is not in a good place right now, that he may even be depressed (and believe me, I know how it feels) but I guess the question is, do I keep calling?